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    How Feminism Hurts Men How Feminism Hurts Men151,372 views | 1,610 comments | posted on November 12, 2013

    Yesterday somebody on Facebook told me that feminism elevates women at the expense of men, that its agenda to validate women emasculates us guys.He was right.For men, the rise of feminism has relegated us to second-class status. Inequality and discrimination have become part of our everyday lives.Because of feminism, men can ...

    Why I Can’t Say Love the Sinner / Hate the Sin Anymore Why I Can’t Say Love the Sinner / Hate the Sin Anymore114,371 views | 347 comments | posted on June 20, 2013

    I thought we just needed to try harder. Maybe we needed to focus more on loving the sinner, and less on protesting his sin.But I'm done. I can't look my gay brother in the eye anymore and say "I love the sinner but hate the sin."I can't keep drawing circles in ...

    On Growing Up in Bill Gothard’s Homeschool Cult On Growing Up in Bill Gothard’s Homeschool Cult113,483 views | 191 comments | posted on February 28, 2014

    "Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater!" they say.I hear it over and over again."Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. There was some good and some bad. Just take what good you can and leave the rest."I don't know how.This is what happens when your definitions of ...

    What I Wish Women Knew About Men What I Wish Women Knew About Men105,206 views | 281 comments | posted on April 30, 2014

    Dear Women,Summer is almost here, which means that us men are going to be forced to realize you have a body and skin and curves. This is very difficult for us men. We have to constantly be on guard against danger (and by "danger" I mean you). This is why I ...

    Why We Left the Church (Our Stories) Why We Left the Church (Our Stories)96,820 views | 534 comments | posted on August 1, 2013

    We are an entire generation with the broken pieces of our religion scattered on the floor around us.We are the children who learned fake smiles too early, who found all the right answers dissatisfying, who know what it's like to sit in a pew with our hearts a thousand miles ...

    The Day I Stopped Believing in God The Day I Stopped Believing in God55,535 views | 202 comments | posted on May 23, 2013

    By then, I was already having doubts.Sitting across the table from new friends who didn't see any reason to believe in God, I had tried to explain to them why I did and why it mattered.But this was the real world, and in the real world "because the Bible says ...

    I Don’t Have My Shit Together I Don’t Have My Shit Together51,812 views | 213 comments | posted on February 24, 2014

    I don't want to be a Christian writer, if it means writing from the heart and then hitting backspace until it feels safe again.I don't want to be a Christian writer, if it means pretending that faith is something other than what it is - brutal, clumsy, fragile, ugly.I don't ...

    I Don’t Know If I’m a Christian Anymore I Don’t Know If I’m a Christian Anymore51,579 views | 194 comments | posted on March 24, 2014

    I thought I had writer's block.I thought the words had left me a week or two ago. Every time I tried to write, my mind seemed like an empty room. I was wrong.I wasn't out of words. Only out of comfortable words, neat words that flow from one cleanly-formatted paragraph ...

    When We Criticize the Church When We Criticize the Church41,017 views | 194 comments | posted on March 22, 2013

    We were sold a package deal. Truth and lies, hope and despair, real and fake - all tied up in a neat package with a bow and sold to us with the label of "Christianity". The men in the suits with all the words told us that what they taught was ...

    Dear Mr. Gothard Dear Mr. Gothard38,156 views | 66 comments | posted on July 8, 2014

    A few months ago, Heather shared this story with me. I sat motionless reading the words you're about to read, my heart breaking at the horror of it all. My mind didn't want to believe it, but I knew in my gut that it was true. I recognized the places she ...

    I’m Tired of Talking about Bill Gothard & the Duggars I’m Tired of Talking about Bill Gothard & the Duggars33,317 views | 288 comments | posted on May 26, 2015

    I'm so very tired.I just got home from a four-day camping trip -- four days of sunshine and rain and afternoon naps and black coffee -- and when I opened my computer for the first time last night, the notifications started rolling in. Tweets and Facebook comments and interview requests from ...

    5 Reasons I Reject Unconditional Election 5 Reasons I Reject Unconditional Election32,692 views | 166 comments | posted on July 13, 2013

    "Unconditional election is God’s free choice before creation, not based on foreseen faith, to which traitors he will grant faith and repentance, pardoning them, and adopting them into his everlasting family of joy." - John Piper Once upon a time, I stopped believing in God because of unconditional election.I couldn't ...

    How To Not Be Matt Walsh How To Not Be Matt Walsh27,202 views | 115 comments | posted on August 13, 2014

    This isn't about Matt Walsh. Not really.We could just as easily talk about any number of blustering voices on talk radio or cable news or behind the pulpits of many churches. But right now the conversation is about Matt Walsh and the latest profoundly ignorant thing he wrote. So let's ...

    How I Became a Jesus Feminist How I Became a Jesus Feminist26,060 views | 128 comments | posted on November 20, 2013

    When I was nineteen, a kid asked me what a feminist was.“A feminist is a woman with an authority problem,” I said.It was a black-and-white world I lived in then, one where I had all the answers (because I had read them in a book) and I wasn’t afraid to ...

    I Am Not a Sex-Fueled Robot I Am Not a Sex-Fueled Robot25,281 views | 169 comments | posted on June 27, 2013

    They say that men give love to get sex, and women give sex to get love. If this is true, then marriage is nothing but a market exchange where we trade emotion for flesh in a desperate attempt to satisfy our own cravings. If this is true, I am simply a ...

    Dear Christianity, I Have a Few Questions Dear Christianity, I Have a Few Questions25,261 views | 141 comments | posted on March 23, 2015

    Dear Christianity,We've been together a while now. My whole life, to be exact.  I know we've had our hard times, our breakups and makeups and are-we-going-to-make-it stretches, but you're still my religion.So I have a few questions for you.I've been seeing a therapist lately. (Don't worry -- it's not you ...

    Perhaps Love Bakes a Cake Perhaps Love Bakes a Cake21,221 views | 129 comments | posted on September 4, 2013

    It is a culture war that has raged in churches and courtrooms, in parades and fast food places. Now in the most bizarre turn of all, the "gay marriage" battle is being fought in bakeries and restaurants across the country. While many Christians see this as a disturbing indicator of mounting ...

    Hobby Lobby, the Duggars, and Bill Gothard Hobby Lobby, the Duggars, and Bill Gothard21,196 views | 66 comments | posted on July 3, 2014

    I often hear Christians dismiss Bill Gothard and his teachings as legalistic, fundamentalist, bizarre, and dangerous. Rightly so, especially in the wake of his alleged sexual misconduct. But many of these same Christians support Hobby Lobby or the Duggars for their "Christian values", perhaps not realizing how closely they are connected to Bill Gothard.This ...

    Should I Rethink My Theology? (a Flowchart) Should I Rethink My Theology? (a Flowchart)20,663 views | 36 comments | posted on June 16, 2015

    Next time you're talking about God, stop and listen to the words coming out of your mouth. Does the person you're describing sound like an asshole? If so, consider it an invitation to rethink your theology.I know how scary that can be, like being lost at sea without a compass ...

    8 Myths Christians Believe About God’s Will 8 Myths Christians Believe About God’s Will20,170 views | 26 comments | posted on July 31, 2014

    If you're like me, "God's will" has been the focus of much prayer, angst, hope, and confusion. I've often wondered if I had found it, missed it, or generally screwed it up. So I'm very grateful for these words from Mandy Meisenheimer, challenging myths that I've often believed about God's will:Seeking ...

    Confessions of a Recovering Cynic Confessions of a Recovering Cynic19,804 views | 14 comments | posted on November 7, 2013

    For years, I wore the label on my forehead in big black letters:"Cynic."I was eighteen, nineteen, twenty and immersed in a dysfunctional system where authoritarianism and cognitive dissonance ruled supreme.I was a boy becoming a man and trying to bridge the gap between what I heard and what I saw ...

    Why My Boys Wore Spiderman Costumes to Church Today Why My Boys Wore Spiderman Costumes to Church Today19,400 views | 34 comments | posted on April 19, 2015

    "Daddy, can I wear my Spiderman costume to church?" It's Sunday morning and I'm trying to drink my second cup of coffee and procrastinating on getting dressed."Go find some clothes so I can get you dressed," I'd told Keenan. (He's four years old, and this mission usually has a fifty percent ...

    4 Reasons I’m Not Going to Heaven 4 Reasons I’m Not Going to Heaven18,967 views | 77 comments | posted on June 18, 2014

    A few days ago somebody gave me a scrap of yellow paper with blue letters on it. Across the top it read: "Am I Going to Heaven? QUIZ!"Not too long ago, I was the one carrying those papers, handing them to strangers in hopes of altering their eternal destination. So ...

    Boys and Dolls: A Father’s Response Boys and Dolls: A Father’s Response16,422 views | 94 comments | posted on February 27, 2013

    What would you do if you found your boy playing with a doll instead of a bulldozer?This is the scandalous premise at the heart of a recent Sesame Street clip. As a guy who aspires to Biblical manhood, as a father of two sons, and as a regular viewer of ...

    What Nobody Ever Told Me About Jesus What Nobody Ever Told Me About Jesus16,110 views | 39 comments | posted on April 17, 2014

    I've been wearing my heart on my sleeve around here, all torn up. It's no secret that there's been a lot of anger, swirling confusion, throbbing frustration. I've metaphorically stomped around the house slamming doors, yelling till my throat was raw. Mostly yelling about the Church.I want to talk about ...

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